Being a new mum
12 Feb 2012 Leave a Comment
in Uncategorized Tags: mums, parents
I don’t know how long I have as my little bubs is sat doing the longest far you have ever possibly heard lol. I was thinking about writing this post at 5am the other morning. Having been bfing my little one since birth I had had no problems until last week when it started to hurt and blisters appeared. Having self diagnosed myself on the internet, as that is always the best thing to do, I decided me and bubs must have thrush. After a dr visit and seeing a bf specialist this is not the case…. phew! The problem is bubs isn’t latching on properly, now yoou would think that after thousands of years babies would be able to do this quite easily but no it is a skill you and bubs have to learn. Different positions, mouth wide open etc. And this is only one of the many things I have had to learn in the last eight weeks. Reading Baby Whisperer I had to put it down as found myself comparing my life with that of someone who obviously was very good at instilling complete routine into their lives, which I have never been so good at. I can’t wake my baby up at 7 every morning or put him to bed at 7pm every night, that’s just not me so how can I expect my little bubs to be like that? Said book got thrown across the room as it made me feel like I was being a bad parent already, only 6 weeks in!
The other thing I have found is that you have to know how to work a lot of things. I have sof ar had to read instruction manuals for: Play gym, bouncing chair, cot, crib, buggy, car seat, how to put car seat in and out of car and in and out of buggy. Due to soreness I decided to read out to use a manual pump, in order to use said pump I had to learn how to use my steriliser I had purchased. In order to then feed my bubs out of a bottle I also had to read how to put a bottle together. It is hard enough trying to learn what your baby wants when he is cranky or crying without having to learn how to use so many pieces of equipment that you will probably never use again and flog for less than half the price you paid.
What makes me laugh is that I prepped so much for the labour, read all about the different pain relief options, if I needed a C section, which I did, what it would involve, attended birthing classes which involved deep breathing and relaxation exercises. So me and hubby were well prepped for the birth. However everyone says is that nothing can prepare you for a new baby. And it can’t, the amount of reading there is to be done on not only all said appliances, but also making sure your baby is developing at the right time, what games you should be playing with them and googling baby classes, its crazy. There should be a baby school you can attend during your 9 months of pregnancy which preps you for everything and anything. You are on autopilot like never before, the thought of 8 hours undisturbed sleep fills me with more joy than having a night out on the town, and for those of you that know me you would think I’d prefer the latter but no definitely not. My previous job stood me in good stead, long shifts, nights and days and little thanks for a hard job 
Saying all that to see him growing every day and smiling at me for pulling faces I haven’t pulled since I was at primary school is definitely worth the hard slog. I’m lucky too that my hubby loves cooking and has made nearly all of my meals since Christmas. If he wasn’t here I’d either be a size 20, eating lots of crap, or a size 8 as I’d have no time to eat! I know my blog says this is about spirituality and how it fits in with my life and I haven’t mentioned it on this occasion. I still do my angel cards and have decided this year I need to learn patience! It still exists in my life but at the moment I won’t be writing exclusively about it. It may crop up time to time but until then I will be writing about the most important things in my life and at the moment that is my family Bubs is quite chilled in his bouncy chair at mo but it is nearly bedtime, for him and me
Love and light peeps
x
